Smile :) until Jail is a better place

This is one of the most common conversations I have these days, written in a very generic form

Friend: Hi

Me: Hi long time how are you

Friend: Fantastic. I just got engaged.

Me: Great, Congrats!! So when’s the big day

Friend: I’ll tell you all about it. You tell me. How are you? Found someone special?

Me: Nope. I am happily single

Friend: Oh, don’t worry you’ll find someone.

!!!!! Hello!!!!! What just happened here? “Don’t worry you’ll find someone? Don’t worry? “.  I check my face; I am smiling, so I don’t look sad. And dint I just say 'happily' single? I wonder what gave her the idea that I am worried and sad and desperately looking for this someone special. If you are a single gal and haven’t had to go through this conversation, I’d say you are lying. Poor thing you are in denial.

But girls, the problem is not us. It’s just that our engaged or newly married friends are so blissfully happy with their life that they think that any other state of living is SAD.  You could say that it’s not the newly married creatures whose giggles and the hanger in the mouth grin makes you feel like hitting them with the same hanger and saying get out of it. You could say even friends who have been married for years try to have the why you aren’t married conversation with you. Those females are just plain jealous that why should they be the only ones who have to suffer the “bliss”.  

There was a time, not to long back, when my sister would go on about how I should not worry and I would find someone just as amazing as her husband who according to her is He-man, Superman and Batman all rolled in one with a drizzle of James Bond on top. It got to the point where I had to threaten my parents with grave consequences if they dint keep their daughter in check. Yes she was newly married but the only reason I did not kill her is because I don’t like jail.

So all you sweet people who care for a single friends status, put this into your mushy brains, the day jails start serving chocolate and French fires and playing 2 broke girls, you are the first person she is coming after. Have fun!

 

Love

MM

The under-rated Romance

Romance, the word and every action and thought that leads to the word makes me smile. Romance. Its such a sweet word. It is such a simple emotion. I wonder why many people are so scared of romance or act like its such a huge burden. Why is romance associated with something that has to be bought. Romantic gesture- meaning buy chocolates, buy flowers, buy diamonds.. buy.. no wonder men are so scared. lol. Romance to me is associated with love. Not just the full fledged lets jump off the cliff together love, its those stirrings of love. Those little butterflies. You know he likes you, you know he wants to spend more time with you. I believe the best feeling is when you are in a group and you are chit chatting having fun and by chance you look in his direction and he is looking at you with a smile on his face. Your heart skips a beat. Lub dub. Even better when your friends notice that he looks at you when you are not looking. Boy that is fantastic. I miss that.
By the way I am not the type who says flowers and diamonds are not romance. I am no fool, girl. The problem with guys and girls is simple. Girls want the thought and guys want to be told. You tell them and they will do it, but we feel that whats the point. If I have to ask for it, that means he doesn't think I am worth it. We want him to think. Its simple if he sees something for a dollar in a flee market and picks it up because he thought it will look pretty on you. It might be ugly but we will cherish it with a little more value than that diamond you had to ask him. What will make him get lucky is that to us the moral of the story was that he thought of me even when I was not around. The thought. See so simple. I would be happy with one red rose than fifty. Once this guy sent me this huge bouquet of flowers, different flowers, the arrangement was an organised mess. Supposedly it reminded me of him. :) Holding hands is romantic, kissing on the forehead is romantic. Just a passing touch, brush of the arm, putting a bothersome lock of my hair behind my ear, these little little sub-conscious gestures are romantic. After a couple of years of marriage, just taking a moment to look into her eyes and saying I love you is romantic. :)
I wonder why and when did romance become so complicated. Or people just got so settled in their banal life and got busy for romance. Watching romances or reading romances are considered uncool. Romance is an expression of love and is there a better feeling in the world than being loved.